Is Love Real? -final draft..

One of the most well known statistics these days is about married couples and their divorces. It is said that approximately one in every two marriages ends up in divorce within the first few years of marriage. Knowing that the statistics are very high, I have decided to ask people what they think about love. Do you think love is real? Do you truly believe in love and that there is one perfect person for everyone? Love is one of, if not the hardest word to define because it’s true definition lies within the person defining it. Wikipedia describes love “as any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness.” The Singapore Medical Journal says that “Love is defined as the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.“ There is not one word that can describe love because whether you believe in it or not, everyone has their own opinion. I went around and did some research and my findings were quite typical, I believe. I interviewed six people, three males and three females, all in different age groups, and asked them all the same questions: do you believe in love, have you ever been in love, and why do you feel this way
Three of the people that I interviewed told me that they absolutely think love is real and that they believe in it 100%. The people on this side of the spectrum were two men and one woman. They basically all told me that even though love isn’t exactly the easiest thing to find, they know that the ‘right person’ is out there somewhere. Of course, all three people have also been in love, which causes them to believe in it so strongly. One person told me that he knows love is real every time he looks into his significant other’s eyes and sees that she hides nothing from him. Another person told me that she believes in love because, “Without love, my world would fall apart. He [my husband] is the one thing I think of all day and all night, and that feeling I get whenever I’m with him; that’s love”.
On the other side of course, are the other three people I interviewed, and as I predicted, they all hated the word ‘love’ and everything it stands for. This time, two women and one man agreed that they didn’t believe in it one bit. They all three agreed that once in their lives they had been in love, or what they thought love was. When it came to why they disbelieve now, the stories took an unexpected turn, but all had quite a similar end. One person was cheated one, the other’s significant other passed away, and the third claimed his significant other ‘fell out of love’ with him. In all cases, these three people were hurt and as the saying goes ‘had their hearts ripped out of their chests’. Although none of the three had gone through what the others did, they all were in terrible disbelief and were full of hurt when their relationships ended. They all told me that they devoted so much time and effort into their relationships and they received nothing in return, which is the reason why they were all so sour on the topic.
After interviewing these six people and reading over the notes I took and the responses they wrote to me, I realized that, I agree and disagree with both groups, the people that do believe, and the people the despise love with a passion. Contrary to my belief though, I did realize that each side isn’t specifically only for one gender, because the answers came out even on both ends. I realized something that was under my nose the entire time; everyone that had been hurt in the past stop believing, and everyone that is still in a happy and committed relationship believes in love to the fullest. Of course, it was just my luck that I found six people that each had strong views on the issue, I fall in the middle. I believed in love when I was in a happy relationship and thought that everything was going well, and as soon as the relationship ended, I became very sour and almost hated the word love and what it meant. Now though, after some time has passed, I feel as if love is real and that it may take a very long time, but there is someone for everyone and that people shouldn’t be bitter about endings, but happy because they happened in the first place.
I know that no two people are a like and that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that is why I chose this topic. I know that many people feel strongly about love, either positively or negatively, and that is why it caught my attention. The people I interviewed happened to have been from two opposite sides of the spectrum, which I have come to realize is very normal, but when I asked myself the same questions, I found that I didn’t believe or disbelieve, I was somewhat in the middle. Does that make me abnormal? No, I think it makes me hopeful that even though life has handed me lemons, I’ve made lemonade and I’m ready to sit back and enjoy it.


..p.s. - thank you Apollonia for all your comments!! You're awsome!! =)

Television..

If you ask any busy parent what the best way to keep their chilren occupied for a few minutes at home is to sit them by the television. I know that personally, when I babysit my Godson, his mother always tells me to turn the television on and let him watch for a few HOURS if I need a couple minutes to go into the other room and do something else. I find this to be a terrible habbit because chilren nowadays are so fixated with the television and all the shows that are on that they don't read or even go play outside and be the even the least bit active. Naturally though, I on occasion, put him in front of the televsion (few 30 minutes at most) because it truly is useful. For example, when I'm making dinner, I can't be holding him and catering to all his needs while I'm sitting over the stove trying to cook him dinner. I personally was brought up to play outside whenever and as much as I can, after I had finished all my homework of course! I think that children are becoming less active and dropping out of school more often because of television. These days, there are over 200 channels on any given cable, satellite dish, direct tv, etc, so it gives the children more of a chance to watch more television. At any time of the day there is at least one program on t.v. that is appealing to someone and that is the trigger.
I know that I may sound like a hypocrit because I do enjoy watching telesivion, and like most other people I have those weekly shows that I feel I must watch, but other than that, I don't watch television much. I think that because I wasn't brought up to watch television every free moment of my life i don't feel the need to watch it all day long, which is probably why I am so against raising children to watch television just because it keeps them occupied while their parents are busy. Attention parents! A book keeps your chilren occupied as much if not more than the television does! Keep that in mind =)

Is Love Real? -second draft

I was having a very hard time editing my essay and trying to find scholarly opinion on the subject of 'love', so instead I attempted to ass a couple definitions i found on the internet. One of the most well known statistics these days is about married couples and their divorces. It is said that approximately one in every two marriages ends up in divorce within the first few years of marriage. Knowing that the statistics are very high, I have decided to ask people what they think about love. Do you think love is real? Do you truly believe in love and that there is one perfect person for everyone? Love is one of, if not the hardest word to define because it’s true definition lies within the person defining it. Wikipedia describes love “as any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness.” The Singapore Medical Journal says that “Love is defined as the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.“ There is not one word that can describe love because whether you believe in it or not, everyone has their own opinion of it. I went around and did some research and my findings were quite typical, I believe. I interviewed six people, three males and three females, all in different age groups, and asked them all the same questions: do you believe in love, have you ever been in love, and why do you feel this way
Three of the people that I interviewed told me that they absolutely think love is real and that they believe in it 100%. The people on this side of the spectrum were two men and one woman. They basically all told me that even though love isn’t exactly the easiest thing to find, they know that the ‘right person’ is out there somewhere. Of course, all three people have also been in love, which causes them to believe in it so strongly. One person told me that he knows love is real every time he looks into his significant other’s eyes and sees that she hides nothing from him. Another person told me that she believes in love because, “Without love, my world would fall apart. He [my husband] is the one thing I think of all day and all night, and that feeling I get whenever I’m with him; that’s love”.
On the other side of course, are the other three people I interviewed, and as predicted, they all hated the word ‘love’ and everything it stands for. This time, two women and one man agreed that they didn’t believe in it one bit. They all three agreed that once in their lives they had been in love, or what they thought love is anyway, but when it came to why they disbelieve now, the stories took an unexpected turn, but all had quite a similar end. One person was cheated one, the other’s significant other passed away, and the third claimed his significant other ‘fell out of love’ with him. In all cases, these three people were hurt and as the saying goes ‘had their hearts ripped out of their chests’. Although none of the three had gone through what the others did, they all were in terrible disbelief and were full of hurt when their relationships ended. They all told me that because they devoted so much time and effort into their relationships and received nothing in return that that is the reason why they were all so sour on the topic.
After interviewing these six people and reading over the notes I took and the responses they wrote to me, I realized that, I agree and disagree with both groups, the people that do believe, and the people the despise love with a passion. Contrary to my belief though, I did realize that each side isn’t specifically only for one gender, because the answers came out pretty even on both ends. I realized something that was under my nose the entire time; everyone that had been hurt in the past stop believing, and everyone that is still in a happy and committed relationship believes in love to the fullest. Of course, it was just my luck that I found six people that each had strong views on the issue, I fall in the middle. I believed in love when I was in a happy relationship and thought that everything was going well, and as soon as the relationship ended, I became very sour and almost hated the word love and what it meant. Now though, after some time has passed, I feel like love is real and that it may take a very long time, but there is someone for everyone and that people shouldn’t be bitter about endings, but happy because they happened in the first place.
I know that no two people are a like and that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that is why I chose this topic. I know that many people feel strongly about love, either positively or negatively, and that is why it caught my attention. The people I interviewed happened to have been from two opposite sides of the spectrum, which I have come to realize is very normal, but when I asked myself the same questions, I found that I didn’t believe or disbelieve, I was somewhat in the middle, so does that make me abnormal? No, I think it makes me hopeful that even though life has handed me lemons, I’ve made lemonade and I’m ready to sit back and enjoy it.

Doctors con't...

Whenever you are feeling under the weather or you have a pain that aspirin just won't fix, the first person you think of is your doctor. Naturally we all go to the doctor in hopes of figuring out what exactly is wrong with ourselves and what is the best and quickest way to fix it. What if though, the doctor doesn't really know what the right medicine to prescribe for you is and he just gives you the one that will get him the most money. Let me explain, let's say for example that you had a terrible cold with signs of a flu, you would go to the doctor expecting him to give you some pills and syrups and you'll be better in a few days, but what if the doctor hasn't seen these symptoms before? Naturally, he will not tell you that he has no idea what is wrong with you, he'll just say that you should take this, that and the other, and if you're not feeling better to come back in a couple weeks.
I have been told by someone (who will remain nameless) that he used to work for a medicine distributing company, which means that he went around to various doctors trying to sell the product that he was given by the company. The cheaper the product was that he sold to the doctor, the greater the income would be for the doctor. So with this said, wouldn't it be the smartest thing for the doctor the prescribe this product to as many patients as possible so that he gets the maximum amount of money possible? Knowing this information now, how confidant are you to go to your doctor and take the medicine he prescribes? If you take the medicine with no side effects and you feel better in a couple days, congrats! But what if you don't? That's when you'll think of me, because when you go back to the doctor for another appointment, you'll have to pay the co-pay, which of course, is just more money for the doctor! We all have the doctors that we've been going to for years and have learned to trust, and I am in no way knocking doctors because they do work miracles, I'm just asking you to think about this next time you pay him a visit (no pun intended).

Doctors..

"Doctors are only as good as the medicine they prescribe"
- Anonymous

Facebook vs. Myspace

OK i know that in our day and age, everyone either has a Facebook or Myspace. both of these site have many similarities but also many differences so them. for example- you can put music on a myspace but cannot with a facebook. or another- you can tag people in pictures on a facebook but cannot on a myspace. but they are basically both the same thing- another way to write to your friends/peers/co-workers/etc., so then why the big fuss about which one is 'better'. i personally do not have a myspace, but i do have a facebook. i think this is pretty funny because i fall into the stereotype 100%. people that originally had a myspace and then made a facebook think that facebook is terrible and lame and hate it completely, but equally, people who had facebook first (myself for example) think that myspace is just silly and refuse to make a myspace page. but if these site are so similar then why the battles between them? i honestly don't know, but i do know that every time someone asks me if i have a myspace i reply- ew, no! i have a facebook! -with such confidence, as if i was the creator of facebook and everyone should join my little club. of course, there are people who have both facebook and myspace and like both sites, but I'm talking about the people that are so hardcore about one that they almost in a way, look down on the people who have the one they don't. some of you reading this may be thinking 'okay this girl has lost all her marbles', but in fact i haven't (not yet anyway)!! but i know for a fact that most of you right now are thinking 'wow, she's right, what's the big deal about these two sites?' ..i honestly don't know why people (including myself) have such strong opinions about these two sites- i mean in the end- aren't they just another type of Blogger??

Is Love Real? -first draft..

One of the most well known statistics these days is about married couples and their divorces. It is said that approximately one in every two marriages ends up in divorce within the first few years of marriage. Knowing that the statistics are very high, I have decided to ask people what they think about love. Do you think love is real? Do you truly believe in love and that there is one perfect person for everyone? Love is one of, if not the hardest word to define because it’s true definition lies within the person defining it. There is not one word that can describe love because whether you believe in it or not, everyone has their own opinion of it.
I went around and did some research and my findings were quite typical, I believe. I interviewed six people, three males and three females, all in different age groups, and asked them all the same questions: do you believe in love, have you ever been in love, and why do you feel this way. I wrote down everyone’s response to these questions and when I reviewed them later, I realized that, I agree and disagree with both groups, the people that do believe, and the people the despise love with a passion. Contrary to my belief though, I did realize that there each side isn’t specifically only for one gender, because the answers came out pretty even on both ends.
Three of the people that I interviewed told me that they absolutely think love is real and that they believe in it 100%. The people on this side of the spectrum were two men and one woman. They basically all told me that even though love isn’t exactly the easiest thing to find, they know that the ‘right person’ is out there somewhere. Of course, all three people have also been in love, which causes them to believe in it so strongly. One person told me that he knows love is real every time he looks into his significant other’s eyes and sees that she hides nothing from him. Another person told me that she believes in love because, “Without love, my world would fall apart. He [my husband] is the one thing I think of all day and all night, and that feeling I get whenever I’m with him; that’s love”.
On the other side of course, are the other three people I interviewed, and as predicted, they all hated the word ‘love’ and everything it stands for. This time, two women and one man agreed that they didn’t believe in it one bit. They all three agreed that once in their lives they had been in love, or what they thought love is anyway, but when it came to why they disbelieve now, the stories took an unexpected turn, but all had quite a similar end. One person was cheated one, the other’s significant other passed away, and the third claimed his significant other ‘fell out of love’ with him. In all cases, these three people were hurt and as the saying goes ‘had their hearts ripped out of their chests’. Although none of the three had gone through what the others did, they all were in terrible disbelief and were full of hurt when their relationships ended. They all told me that because they devoted so much time and effort into their relationships and received nothing in return that that is the reason why they were all so sour on the topic.
After interviewing these six people and reading over the notes I took and the responses they wrote to me, I realized something that was under my nose the entire time; everyone that had been hurt in the past stop believing, and everyone that is still in a happy and committed relationship believes in love to the fullest. Of course, it was just my luck that I found six people that each had strong views on the issue, I fall in the middle. I believed in love when I was in a happy relationship and thought that everything was going well, and as soon as the relationship ended, I became very sour and almost hated the word love and what it meant. Now though, after some time has passed, I feel like love is real and that it may take a very long time, but there is someone for everyone and that people shouldn’t be bitter about endings, but happy because they happened in the first place.
I know that no two people are a like and that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and that is why I chose this topic. I know that many people feel strongly about love, either positively or negatively, and that is why it caught my attention. The people I interviewed happened to have been from two opposite sides of the spectrum, which I have come to realize is very normal, but when I asked myself the same questions, I found that I didn’t believe or disbelieve, I was somewhat in the middle, so does that make me abnormal? No, I think it makes me hopeful that even though life has handed me lemons, I’ve made lemonade and I’m ready to sit back and enjoy it.

song..

"You know I gave you the world
You had me in the palm of your hand
So why your love went away
I just can't seem to understand
thought it was me and you until the end
but I guess I was wrong.."

-Justin Timberlake, "What Goes Around, Comes Around"

pain...

nothing hurts worse than the pain of a broken heart.
it's not like a cut or bruise where you can take a Tylenol and wrap it with a band-aid.
the pain in so much more, so much deeper, so much more meaningful.
together forever- that was suppose to be the plan,
yet somehow, one person changes their mind- even after so many years.
everyone says the pain stops.. give it time..
but i don't want to give it time, i want it to end now!
you can't eat.. can't sleep.. can't do anything but think about the pain..
so now.. where do you go from here??
change everything and everyone you've known for years because he's not in love anymore?
is that foolish of me to be upset? to want to strangle him for all the pain he caused me?
they say- well, he's in pain too.. neither of you wanted this to happen..
bottom line is though.. it did.. and let me tell you..
NOTHING hurts more than a broken heart..

lies-

How is it that people, even the ones closest to you, can lie directly to your face and pretend that they are being honest with you? i am a strong believer in 'honest is the best policy' and i really think it's true. if there is something that you want to tell me, or something that you have done, tell me!! don't sit there and lie to my face. i don't know about you guys but i hate being lied to. i am a very open and honest person and i would appreciate it if people were the same way with me. i mean, of course everyone has their little white lies that don't hurt anyone, but i mean, if it's something big, deliberately lying and then 'swearing' that you're being honest..?? come on.. cut the bullogna! I'm not as dumb as you may perceive me to be. bottom line.. it hurts when you're lied to.. but it kills when you're lied to by one of the closest people in your life. it is as if saying that you don't matter so why not make up stories just to protect myself from something stupid that I've done.. seriously.. i hate liars and if you're a liar.. distance yourself from me because we probably won't mesh well =/

Good News =)

i think this may actually be my first good entry since beginning my online journal on blogger. i feel sooo great! i went to the doctor the other day and he gave me sooo much medicine that right now i feel like a whole new person, which is something i really need because today is one of the longest days of the week for me. I have three classes (from 7:35-12:10) and then i have to pick up my Godson from his day nursery school, and babysit him until 2:30. Then I have to come back to Jamaica to pick up his sister by 3:00 and drop her off at her afternoon school program, which is back in our neighborhood. By this time it is about 4:00, so i take the baby home and make dinner for the two of us, and I wait there until his mother comes home, but my day isn't over yet! I have night class tonight as well, from 6:50-9:40. Many people have mixed reactions about night classes, i personally love them. The fact that i only have to go to class once a week is the greatest thing in the world for me, because i have two jobs, one of which is full time, and i am a full time student as well as part time babysitter, so the less time i spend in class, the more time i can work and start paying off all the college loans that i took out.
So now it's about that time to leave you all because my third class (out of four) is starting in a couple minutes (even though the professor isn't here yet). I wish everyone a great Tuesday and I'll see you all on Thursday in the W.C. =)

Funny Funny..

soo... the post below is the actual e-mail i received.. i think it's hysterical lol
i think the main reason why it's funny is because i was expecting this nice and cutesy response but, i get the truth lol.. which is probably funnier than if it was a cute response.
OK so I'm not going to talk about this any longer because the more you explain a joke the less funny it is and so, before i kill the joke, I'll end it now.

Funny Funny =)

I got this little funny in an e-mail the other day..


WHERE WOULD YOU BE IF:
YOU HAVE ALL THE MONEY YOUR HEART DESIRES...
YOU HAVE NO WORRIES ...
YOU COME HOME AND THE FINEST MEAL IS AWAITING YOU...
YOUR BATHWATER HAS BEEN RUN...
YOU HAVE THE PERFECT KIDS...
YOUR PARTNER IS AWAITING YOU WITH OPEN ARMS AND KISSES...
SO WHERE WOULD YOU BE......
.
.
.
.
IN THE WRONG HOUSE =)

HOOORAYYY!!!

I'm getting better!!!! YAY!!! I went to the doctor yesterday and he gave me like a million things to take but it's the middle of day two and I'm feeling awsome!! Which means... I'm SOOO ready for the Super Bowl!!! Yes!! haha

lol

I got kicked out of work today.. well, not exactly kicked out, but they told me to leave early.. why you may ask?? because 1) i sound terrible and I was like a walking punchline all day so we clearly didn't get any work done and 2) because they're afraid they'll catch whatever it is I have so they told me to leave during lunch and come back on Monday haha yeah, they love me lol
So after work I came home and slept until about.. umm now haha yes, very evenful day..
have a great weekend all!!!